Understanding the Love Languages, By Vicktoria Molokin

Love languages are ways individuals express and experience love when interacting with themselves and others. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, discusses that there are 5 types of love languages.


Words of Affirmation = this language uses words to affirm people. For some people actions don’t speak louder than words. If this is your love language then unsolicited compliments and hearing “I love you” are the most meaningful ways that you give and/or recieve love.

Acts of Service = for these individuals, actions do speak louder than words. Anything that your partner does that can help ease the burden of responsibilities, speaks volumes to you and is truly valued above all other ways to express love.

Receiving Gifts = for some people, what makes them feel most loved is to receive a gift. Don’t mistaken this love language as materialism since the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness and effort behind the gift. If you are geared towards this language, the gesture you receive shows you that you are known, cared for, and cherished whatever the gift maybe since gifts are viewed as visual representation of love and are treasured greatly.

Quality Time = this language is all about giving the other person your undivided attention. Nothing says “

Physical Touch = to this person, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch.

How to apply love languages for yourself?

Words of affirmation → use affirmations to build up your self esteem, confidence, and positive self talk. Talk to yourself as if you are your biggest cheerleader and best friend.

Acts of service → give yourself what you need, when you need it. Take time to attend to your self care and address your basic needs.

Receiving gifts → treat yourself! Invest in hobbies, activities, events, and gifts that bring you happiness, health, and love.

Quality time → spend time on the things you love to do like having some quiet time to yourself or take yourself out on a date.

Physical touch → get a massage and pamper yourself or attend to a form of exercise. Learn ways that you can love your body and avoid criticizing all the imperfections and flaws.


How to apply the love languages so that you can improve relationships with others:


Take the quiz to discover your own love language as well as your partner:   https://www.5lovelanguages.com/  

If you would like to explore this further, please call us at 301-570-4050 and we can connect you with a therapist who can help you explore further to help you improve how you feel about yourself and relate to your loved ones.  



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